By Jon Egie

 

Newly wed, Engr and Dr Mrs Ehigiator

Newly wed, Engr and Dr Mrs Ehigiator

Nigerians have been charged to build hope in President Muhammadu Buhari’s administration’s effort to chart a new course for the prosperity of Nigeria.

Ambassador David Oguma gave the charge in an exclusive interview during the post-wedding reception party held for his daughter, former Dr Miss Rukevwe Oguma and his son-in-law, Engr Solomon Ehigiator at the Elora Royal Hall, Benin City; Saturday, Feb. 13.

 

Amb Oguma praying for his daughter and son in-law

Amb Oguma praying for his daughter and son in-law

Amb David Oguma, a business mogul and security expert said what is happening to the economy of Nigeria under Buhari does not mean that Nigeria is doomed; reassuring that Nigeria will come up again.

 

He said the actions taken so far by the Buhari administration are very good decisions by the present government to put things in order, asserting that Nigerians will see the results of the actions very soon.

 

Mr John Oguma saying traditional prayer for the in laws

Mr John Oguma saying traditional prayer for the in laws

“Remember the Bible says that except a grain of wheat falls down and dies it cannot grow up well. What is happening right now does not mean Nigeria is doomed, Nigeria will come up again and we are going to see the results shortly” Oguma said.

 

He enthused that in spite of the glaring dwindling of the value of the naira , biting inflation and scarcity of cash, there is hope for the Nigeria economy as soon as the actions taken by the Buhari administration begin to take root.

 

Sir Igbinosum praying on the kola nut

Sir Igbinosum praying on the kola nut

“As soon as our manufacturing sector springs up there will be little importation and then we will be able to rely on our own goods production, there will be employment and the value of the naira will take its proper standard.

 

He disagreed with people who see the anti-corruption fight led by President Muhammadu Buhari as skewed and a vendetta against political foes saying that some Nigerians have a tendency of being prejudice.

 

The in-laws beg for reduction of the bride price

The in-laws beg for reduction of the bride price

“If any officer is corrupt he should be brought to book. I do not think the anti-corruption fight is vendetta because the level of looting that is being unravelled today is beyond human imagination and people should face the consequence. There is nothing like vendetta”.

 

He lamented that the Operating System of the Nigeria State has been wrong for a very long time but expressed hope that the Buhari administration is out to restructure the system, although it will take some time to reset the mind-set of Nigerians.

 

Ambassador Oguma bringing his daughter to church for the wedding ceremony

Ambassador Oguma bringing his daughter to church for the wedding ceremony

“This idea of impunity, doing things in your own way for personal benefits as opposed to corporate objectives has tainted the minds of Nigerians before but I thank God Buhari is making effort to correct the systemic error to reshape the Nigeria image at home and abroad.

 

In the light of the present hardship occasioned by the dwindling economy which is an aftermath of the global oil price fall, he advised Nigerians to look inward for answer to their economic challenges.

 

R-L Groom's father and his wife, Bride's father and his wife seated during the wedding ceremony

R-L Groom’s father and his wife, Bride’s father and his wife seated during the wedding ceremony

“The days of sharing of the National cake are over. If you know how to farm go back to farm, whatever you know how to do improve on it. Let us look inward for answers, there is hope for us all and there is much to do for everybody” Oguma counseled.

The solemnization

 

The couple exchange rings

The couple exchange rings

Before proceeding to the Elora Hall for the post-wedding reception party, Amb David Oguma had led his daughter, former Dr Miss Rukevwe Oguma to the Living Faith Church, (Winners Chapel) Benin City where he handed her over to Engr Solomon Ehigiator to be his wife.

 

At the church, the charge for the resolve for the bride and groom to live together as husband and wife was read as witnessed by the congregation. Thereafter the couple professed vows of marriage, exchanged rings, partook in Holy Communion and were consequently blessed and declared husband and wife by the leader of the church in Edo State, Pst Mike Olarewaju who later presented the new couple to the congregation.

 

The homily

 

Unveiling the bride

Unveiling the bride

In a homily during the wedding service, Pst Funsho Akin-Ojo described marriage as a covenant relationship between the man and the woman and that the understanding of marriage in that perspective makes the difference.

 

“It was ordained by God to last forever and not for the couple to jump in and jump out” he said. The cleric identified business and friendship as other areas of covenants but stressed that none of them is as strong as the covenant of marriage.

 

You may kiss the bride, Pastor tells the groom

You may kiss the bride, Pastor tells the groom

He told the groom, being and Engineer, to see his wife as a beautiful and complex machine that needs the grace of God to operate and hence prayed for wisdom to help him manage his wife.

 

He assured that as long as the couple obey the Marriage Code of Conduct as enshrined in Ephesians 5: 21-30, “your marriage will succeed”.

 

 

Pastor Olarewaju declaring the couple husband and wife

Pastor Olarewaju declaring the couple husband and wife

He explained that as soon as the couple were joined together as husband and wife, their individual aspirations, interests and drives collapsed into the protection of the aspirations, interests and drives of the united couple as one entity and as such their responsibilities have changed in line with the new status and identity of Mr and Mrs, and for this particular case, Engr and Dr Mrs Ehigiator.

 

He cautioned the couple against gossips and third party actor’s interference in their marital affairs and urged the couple to be mature to take responsibility of all their marital challenges.

 

Behold the newly wed couple, Engr and Dr Mrs Ehigiator

Behold the newly wed couple, Engr and Dr Mrs Ehigiator

“Do not report your spouse to your uncles, aunties and other relatives as that would reduce your prestige. You are both partners with equal shares in this covenant”.

 

He reminded the groom that as the Covenanter, he must always be in charge and that between his former self as a bachelor and the other side as a married man, there are storms but charged the couple to make sure Jesus is always in their boat to calm the storm and sail on.

 

 

Signing the marriage register

Signing the marriage register

According to him, Christian marriage is the union of man and woman to expand the kingdom of God and hence the devil is not always happy with a marriage built on God but sure enough, he said, the fruit of marriage is favour.

 

“If you obey the code of conduct of marriage there is no witch-wife and devil-husband but a bundle of people who fail to obey the code of conduct of marriage suffer from such ignorance”.

 

 

Amb Oguma signing the marriage register as father of the bride

Amb Oguma signing the marriage register as father of the bride

For the couple he warned: “If you know you cannot marry each other then you should not marry but as you have both agreed to marry, your body and resources belong to each other. Neither of you owns his or her life individually any more. If the woman will truly submit to the man there will be no crisis at the home. For the man the love for his wife is unconditional just as the woman’s submission is unconditional”.

 

He declared that only married people fulfill 100 percent of their destiny and that unmarried people hardly attain 10 percent. The cleric said the Commission (Winners Chapel) has no record of marriage failure and hence prayed that in the next nine months, the congregation will gather again to rejoice and celebrate the fruit of the marriage.

Bride Price payment

 

Bride and Groom's parents dancing to praise God for the successful marriage

Bride and Groom’s parents dancing to praise God for the successful marriage

Earlier on Thursday, Feb. 11, Sir Igbinosum, family head of the Ehigiator family of Benin in Edo State led Engr Solomon Ehigiator, his parents, family members, friends and well-wishers to the country home of Amb David Oguma in Agbarho, Ughelli North local government area of Delta State where they were received by the head of the Oguma family, Mr John Oguma, for the bride price payment ceremony.

 

During the ceremony, the Urhobo traditional ‘Aganuzo’ where the host entertains the guests and the guests return the entertainment with a nominal increase value was observed.

 

Pastor Olarewaju handing over the marriage certificate to the couple in the presence of other officiating pastors

Pastor Olarewaju handing over the marriage certificate to the couple in the presence of other officiating pastors

Thereafter, the visiting in-law-to be retreated to the chambers of the bride’s father where the rituals traditional marriage were carried out. During the process the bride’s family spokesman certified the complete provision of all customary items required by the family before an approval to give out their daughter in marriage would be endorsed. The few items that were left undone were promptly provided by the in-laws.

 

Couple cutting the wedding cake at Elora Hall

Couple cutting the wedding cake at Elora Hall

The negotiation of the bride price commenced by a demand of the sum of 10 million naira by the bride’s family but after useful pleas and pledges of loyalty, both parties settled at the sum of 120 naira as bride price, which was promptly paid.

The bride price having been paid, Amb Oguma gave the traditional blessing of marriage to his daughter and son in-law and celebration of the success of the day proceeded.

Commentaries

 

Ambassador David Oguma fielding questions from our reporter at the Elora Hall

Ambassador David Oguma fielding questions from our reporter at the Elora Hall

In an interview, the father of the groom, Deacon Godwin Ehigiator said he was very delighted that his son was marrying. “It is a big joy for me. It is another achievement in my life. I thank God for sparing my life to witness it.”

 

He advised the couple to realise that marriage is ordained by God and that it is an institution that couples start but cannot finish. “ Marriage is not something you just go into and get out of, it is not like an educational institution “ he said and prayed that the couple live in peace and happiness and continue to learn from each other from day to day and from year to year. “They should continue to add love to themselves and to imbibe the spirit of forgiveness for each other always” he added.

 

Asa-Billy Ubreye and other friends of Amb Oguma witnessing the wedding ceremony

Asa-Billy Ubreye and other friends of Amb Oguma witnessing the wedding ceremony

When asked how he felt giving out his daughter in marriage, Amb. David Oguma said: “I feel good, great; as a matter of fact, I am honoured and giving glory to God”.

 

He advised the couple to apply wisdom to copy from their parents and to practise what they have learnt from youth that has brought about the success of the day.

 

Members of the Baden Baden Parliament were present too.

Members of the Baden Baden Parliament were present too.

Asking Solomon how he felt getting married, the groom said he was relaxed and for the attributes that attracted his wife to him, he said, “her beauty and charm”. He encouraged youths out there who were yet to get married to be prayerful for their day to come. Quizzing him further on how long he had been in search of a better half before finding Rukevwe, he declared: “I have never been in search of a wife, I just found her and since then we have been together”.

 

The couple after the bride price payment

The couple after the bride price payment

Full of excitement, the bride answered our questions in a voice laden with hilarious humour. Such was the conversation that flowed:

Spy News: Bride, today you are marrying, how do you feel?

Bride: I am happy; it is a dream comes true

Spy News: How did you meet your man?

Bride: I met him in school some 12 years back

Spy News: What specially attracted you to him?

Bride: He is a very kind person and he loves me

Thank you for your support, the couple greets the crowd

Thank you for your support, the couple greets the crowd

Spy News: What is your specialization?

Bride: I am a medical doctor

Spy News: What a combination, Engineer and Medical Doctor? Congratulations!

Bride: Thank you sir.